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What Moms Can Do May 8, 2015

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We recently celebrated Mom’s Day at school, and what an invitation to work this was for the children! Gifts to make and wrap, cards to draw and color, name tags to write, songs to learn, decorations to make for the windows and walls of the room, centerpieces of flowers to arrange, shortbread to bake, cream to whip and strawberries to slice, tables and chairs to carry and move, tables to set, and finally, lots of clean up. Our elementary aged students provided a lot of community service to the school by working as servers at the teas for the younger students and their Moms.

Was it worth it? Absolutely! One Mom told me that her child counted down the days until the tea. “Mom, only two days to go.” “Mom, only one more day!” He told his Mom that he wanted to dress up, including wearing his church shoes and tie, and asked Mom to dress up, too.  The children were all buzzing with excitement – and the Moms were, too!

The children were provided an excellent opportunity to demonstrate their grace and courtesy – remembering to say please and thank you, to pass the small bowls and plates of cookies, whipped cream and strawberries around the table, to use the tongs and small spoons for serving, to drink from china or glass tea cups. to take turns conversing . . .

One of our school’s values is ‘community.’ This was a true community effort, with all of the children, teachers and classes pitching in to help. And when I saw Moms and children lingering in the afternoon sun, sitting on benches outside of the school and conversing, I realized that the tea helps build community by providing parents an opportunity to meet and converse. The tea also builds our communal memory of shared events.

The children in the classes for 3 – 6 year olds even wrote two community poems. Each child contributed a line to the poem, based on ‘What Moms can do.” I love the way the children have captured the very essence of what it means to be a Mom ~ all of the love, caring, fun, learning, strength, responsibility, and yes, even vulnerability. For sure the poems show that the children are watching and appreciating what we do!

Enjoy!

What Moms can do

By Aspen Class – spring 2015

Grocery shop

Feed me

Give me food

Pack lunches

Bake fish

Cook us breakfast

Make me pancakes

Bake yummy stuff

Clean the dishes

Take me to school

Take me to the park

The pirate park

The playground

Take me bowling with my family

Take me to Zeppoz for the very first time

Color with me

Write

Tape my pictures up on the wall

Buy me new toys

Play with me

Build an igloo

Plant flowers

Snuggle me up in my bed

Snuggle with me

Snuggle

Tuck me in

Give me goodnight kisses

Take care of me when I am sick

Wake me up

Give me hugs

We thank you for all of the wonderful things you do!

Mom, I love you!

“What Moms Can Do”

Willow Classroom

Spring 2015

Sew and needle.

Knit me a scarf

Wash dishes

Clean the walls

Cook dinner

Make something that I want

Teach me how to write

Write things for me

Help me do arts and crafts

Play piano with me

Put on a show and put on music

Turn on “Rooftops step in time”

Play a game with me

Let me play with my toys

Wash the car on hot days

Pick up a couch with my dad

Ride her bike with a helmet

Put the recycling out

Use a pitchfork

Juggle anything

Some things are too heavy for her

My mom can get sick

My mom can come back to me

and she can kiss me

My mom can

My mom loves me

And I love my Mom!

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Is St Nicholas real? What about Santa? December 6, 2014

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Is. St. Nicholas real?

Is Santa Claus real?

Who brings the presents and fills the stockings?

Is Jesus real?

Children ask questions that are difficult to answer. I tend to start story telling, celebrations and debates with phrases such as:

  • This is what some people believe.
  • This is a story from long ago.
  • This is how some families celebrate.

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As an example, today we celebrated the festival of Saint Nicholas. We looked at the world map and found Europe, and then looked at the map of Europe and found the Netherlands. We heard some facts about the real Saint Nicholas who lived a long long time ago. We learned that he was kind and generous, especially to the poor and hungry. We learned that he became a bishop, an important person in his church. We looked at a picture of how Bishop Nicholas might have looked and dressed long ago. We learned how people in the Netherlands remember Saint Nicholas on his feast day. The children leave out a boot, or shoe, or maybe even a clog (We have a pair of clogs that the children can try on!) on the Eve of his day, and then in the morning, on December 6th, the children look to see if Saint Nicholas has left them a treat – perhaps a small toy or something sweet to eat. We then left a boot outside the classroom door and waited for St. Nick to arrive and bring us a treat. Sure enough, he left each child a sweet treat – a cookie and a tiny candy cane. One of our children, from another European country, told us that St. Nicholas travels by boat – yet another tradition.

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“But is he real?”

“Saint Nicholas was a real man. He was kind and generous, and liked to give people surprise gifts.”

“Is he still alive?”

“He lived a long, long time ago. We just remember him on his special day.”

“Does he still bring gifts?”

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“Some families like to think that he does. Other families like to remember St. Nicholas by doing what he did – giving surprise gifts.”

And I am sure we will have similar discussions when we celebrate St. Lucia, and then on a later date take a ride on the Polar Express to the North Pole. The St. Lucia celebration follows a similar pattern to that of St. Nick. We’ll locate Sweden on the map, we’ll talk about what we know of the real St. Lucia who lived long ago, we’ll learn about how her feast day is celebrated in Sweden. We’ll dress up, share a special treat, enjoy candle light . . . and talk about celebrations in general.

When we act out ‘The Polar Express,’ we begin right at the start by saying that we are acting out a story. We talk about ‘acting’ and ‘pretend’, and how we will pretend that we are riding on a train, so we can imagine what that would be like. We will pretend that we are at the North Pole. Some children will get the chance to pretend to be elves, or Santa, and we will all get the chance to be part of the story and have a good time together. We’ll talk about traditions and celebrations some more.

And inevitably someone will ask, “Is Santa real?”

And again we will talk about family traditions and beliefs.

“In my family, the gifts under the Christmas tree are from our family, and Santa fills our stockings.”

“In our family, we give each other gifts at Christmas. We don’t believe in Santa.”

“In our family, we don’t get or give gifts. Christmas is about Jesus.”

“In our family, Santa brings the gifts under the tree and fills our stockings.”

“In our family, we get to open a gift on Christmas Eve.”

“You are all so right. Families celebrate in so many ways and have so many traditions. That’s what makes our family special. We share some special beliefs. Other families have their own special beliefs. What is important is that we know that most families like to celebrate and share special traditions, and that these celebrations are very special. It’s okay if other families believe something different. We can just say what our families believe without saying that what someone else’s family believes is wrong. I might say something like, “Oh, your family believes that the gifts under the tree are from Santa? Our family puts gifts from family members under the tree.”

So, hopefully you can use a similar technique when your child comes home in tears and says, “James said Santa is not real,” or something else that casts doubt on your family traditions or beliefs.

“James has family traditions that are different from ours. That’s okay. Every family is different. In our family tradition …..”

This is obviously much more of an issue as children grow into the kindergarten and elementary years. They tend to be more verbal, and very interested in debating and questioning. And they can be so passionate about their beliefs. These debates open up an opportunity for me, that I will take on Monday, to talk to our K/1 students about respecting other people’s beliefs and traditions. As a parent, you can also use these moments to talk about your family traditions and that it is okay for others to have different traditions and beliefs.

 

And now a confession ~ I wrote letters from Santa to my children until they were well into their twenties. One Christmas Eve I was just so tired, I didn’t write the letter. Everyone was so sad, but understood. It had been a lovely tradition, and one I hope will be brought back to life if and when we have grandchildren!

 

Traditions, celebrations, beliefs . . . they are all part of what makes us human!

 

St. Lucia